Idaho wrote:

....but not receive the RESPONSES (Accept/Decline etc.). I'm her
delegate.

She wants to be able to respond to appointments but she wants the
RESPONSES to appointments that WE schedule to go to ME, not HER.

Is there some way to customize the calendar to do this?

I believe that's a setting she can control. In Outlook, see Help's
"Delegate Access Permissions" topic.
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Brian Tillman [MVP-Outlook]